Anger Management

We have all experienced anger.  Some more than others. It is a common emotion. Anger by itself is not bad. Even Jesus became angry.  Anger becomes a problem when it starts to consume and devour our thoughts and minds.   Some people when they get angry enough say they start to see red or black out entirely.  This usually represents a deeper struggle within the person.

Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath. ~Eckhart Tolle

This quote by Eckhart Tolle sums up the root of anger in a simple sentence.  The pain from  can from anywhere.  It may stem from being ignored and neglected as a child, or harsh past physical punishment and abuse.  Low self-esteem and poor body image may also contribute to the past pain.  We should always remember that we need to look past the anger and look for the inner pain.

So now that we have identified the cause of anger, how do we handle it?  There are several ways to go about addressing anger.  Anger management groups, online programs, and one on one individual counseling with a trained therapist.  Anger management groups work. However, they can be quite intimidating to introverted newcomers.   Also, the therapist leading the group may or may not be quite trained enough to identify individual social cues from group members.  A quiet person may be interpreted as not being engaged.  Online courses may seem like a viable solution.  It may or may not keep the court system off the person's back. What online courses lack is that  they do not address anger at its true core; at its pain.   

Individual anger management counseling with an awareness of deeper issues can help the person address the cause of their anger from a biological, social, psychological, and even a spiritual level.    Once the different aspects and issues are addressed anger will subside, and our fuse with significantly lengthen.